I spend a bit of time on forums, yes I am one of those nerdy types. Reddit, Quora and so on and what’s interesting is that no matter which topics I engage with. The main questions that keep coming up are always things like “How to get out of the Friendzone?” and “How to meet women in Dubai?”. Interesting. So I thought I’d just address this topic in this for once and for all because let’s face it, meeting normal women (not the kind you pay for) can be challenging.
So there's good news and bad news. The good news is that the quality of people in Dubai in general is great. In a city where first impressions can really make or break you, everyone is taking care with grooming, working out etc plus there are ladies of every nationality. If you love accents you've come to the right place.
The bad news is probably the odds. It's a city where the ratio in the workforce is just over six guys to one girl, even though you may not notice it immediately because most bars and nightclubs have a “couples and mixed groups only” policy. No girl, no entry. It's also good to know that drinks are usually free for ladies in a lot of venues and although this brings lots of women to one area, here, women are more likely to want to just hang with their friends and it kind of eliminates the excuse of offering to buy a drink.
Also women are pursued quite hard here in places like shopping malls etc and places which might seem unusual in other countries. Don't get me wrong, its not in a way that's harassment (that's not tolerated in this country and is a punishable offense), its just that people do not hesitate for even a moment to pursue what they want so and hate wasting time if you're a shy guy waiting for the perfect moment its going to be challenging.
So what to do?
I feel like if you approach a woman in Dubai in a relaxed way *woooo-sah* and not like she is the last female on planet earth, you are already miles ahead of the other men who approached her that day while she was getting her coffee, while she waited on her cab, in the elevator, at the mall (especially Waitrose, what is it about that place?), during her workout and so on.
Personally I feel like guys are noticed more if they are not aggressively pursuing just being friendly, chilled and fun because for a woman, attention is everywhere, a connection, good conversation and shared interests is rare.
Now that you have the vibe down, where to find said, attractive women? Well.. it depends on what you’re looking for. I’ve heard that for short term, Tinder is the bomb dot com but then I kind of think why would a girl even be on there when there are already so many options offline. I don’t know. Maybe she doesn’t like leaving her house or has unusual work hours. A colleague used Tinder for all her dating purposes and she found it to be quite useful for vetting options without wasting time but she also said that it was a better option four years ago and that it’s no longer the case.
Another option to meet girls are bars and nightclubs as mentioned earlier. Free drinks and good times are already there. But it can be tricky as loud music can make it a struggle to even have a conversation never mind having a connection. You could try and get a table to be noticed but then again, what kind of person are you going to meet if you need a table to get their attention?
This brings me to my recommendations for where to meet women. These are day parties, beach clubs and house parties.
At day parties like brunches, everyone is already on a good vibe and for some reason I feel like women are less likely to be negative towards a guy approaching them. Sometimes there are girls being rude in nightclubs perhaps they feel like they can get away with it, possibly because it is dark and inhibition fades however at day parties or beach clubs, its rudeness is not as common – I think it would take a special type of mean girl - and total lack of awareness to embarrass a guy in broad daylight.
There are different types of crowds at each beach club so if you want my take on the best beach clubs to go to you can read this article here to get an idea of what to expect. Also check out ladies day events that are happening at your favourite beach location.
House parties – chances are you both know the host or know someone who already knows the host (unless you’re gatecrashing) so this is already something in common and everyone’s defences will be more relaxed, the perfect recipe to socialize with interesting people.
On a sidenote, there are many guys in Dubai who will argue that women in Dubai only date guys with money. I find this amusing as these guys usually fall into two categories 1) They have no game and are looking an excuse instead of admitting their approach is wrong 2) They are the same guys who behave badly and then try to offer money as a way to “smooth things over”. Sure, there are exceptions but it is not the rule otherwise every guy below a certain income level would be single and that is certainly not the case in Dubai. You do not need to be a billionaire or a Rockstar, in fact the guys I find to be most successful in pursuing women are usually the ones in client facing occupations (sales, hospitality, retail - guys who are friendly and a laid back way and used to engaging with different people daily).
My opinion: if you want a girl to like you for more than your money offer something besides your wallet and if you're a girl and you want a guy to be with you for more than your body then don't let it be the only thing you offer him either.
Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
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