I spend a bit of time on forums, yes I am one of those types *insert nerdy emojis*. Reddit, Quora etc and what’s pretty amazing to me that no matter which topics I engage in, the main questions that users request my answers to, are always things like “How to get out of the Friendzone?” and “How to meet women in Dubai?”. Interesting. So I thought I’d just address this topic in an article for once and for all because let’s face it, meeting women in Dubai can be a bit of a challenge.
Yes, I know, competition is tough. This is a place where the ratio in the workforce is just over six guys to one girl - even though you might not notice it immediately in places like nightclubs because most venues have a “couples and mixed groups only” policy. No girl, no entry. Also, drinks are usually free for ladies in a lot of venues and although this brings women out it kind of eliminates the excuse of offering to buy her a drink. The odds seem stacked against you. So what to do? Should you compete harder and be more attention seeking? No. You should do the opposite.
Let’s take a step back for a moment. If you approach a woman in Dubai in a relaxed, polite way and not like she is the last female on planet earth, you are already miles ahead of the other men who approached her that day while she was getting her coffee, while she waited on her cab, in the elevator, at the mall (especially Waitrose, what is it about that place? Maybe the lighting is good), during her workout and so on.
Make your presence known but not in an over bearing way. Relax. Breathe. Woo-saaah! She will notice you more if you are not aggressively pursuing her and just by being yourself (and fun to hang out with) because for a woman, attention is everywhere, a connection, good conversation and shared interests is rare.
So where to go? It depends on what you’re looking for. I’ve heard that for short term, Tinder is the bomb dot com but then I kind of think why would a girl be on there when there are already so many options offline. I don’t know. Maybe she doesn’t like leaving her house or has unusual work hours. A good looking South African girl I once worked with used Tinder for all her dating purposes and she found it to be quite useful for vetting options without wasting time but she also said that it was a good option four years ago and that it’s no longer the case.
Another option to meet girls are nightclubs but as mentioned earlier. Free drinks and good times are already there. Plus loud music can make it a struggle to even have a conversation. You could try and get a table but then again, who are you really hoping to meet if you need a table to get their attention?
This brings me to my recommendations for where to meet women. These are day parties, beach clubs and house parties.
At day parties like brunches, everyone is already on a good vibe and for some reason I feel like women are less likely to be negative towards a guy approaching them. Sometimes there are girls being rude in nightclubs perhaps they feel like they can get away with it, possibly because it is dark and inhibition fades however at day parties or beach clubs, its rare – I think it would take a special kind of mean girl - and total lack of awareness to embarrass a guy in broad daylight.
There are different types of crowds at each beach club so if you want my take on the best beach clubs to go to you can read this article here to get an idea of what to expect. Also check out ladies day events that are happening at your favourite beach location.
House parties – chances are you both know the host or know someone who already knows the host (unless you’re gatecrashing) so this is already something in common and everyone’s defences will be more relaxed, the perfect recipe to socialize with interesting people.
On a sidenote, there are many guys in Dubai who will argue that women in Dubai only date guys with money. I find this amusing as these guys usually fall into two categories 1) They have no game and are looking an excuse instead of admitting their approach is wrong 2) They are the same guys who behave badly and then try to offer money as a way to “smooth things over” (if you took offense to that statement it probably applies to you). Sure, there are exceptions but it is not the rule otherwise every guy below a certain income level would be single and that is certainly not the case in Dubai. In fact the guys I find to be most successful in pursuing women are usually the ones in client facing occupations (marketing, hospitality, retail - guys who are used to interacting with different people daily). My opinion: if you want a girl to like you for more than your money offer something besides your wallet and if you're a girl and you want a guy to be with you for more than your body then don't let it be the only thing you offer him either.
Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. x
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